Use the hurt to heal

Forget your personal tragedy. We are all bitched from the start and

you especially have to be hurt like hell before

you can write seriously. But when you get the

damned hurt, use it-don't cheat with it.

- Ernest Hemingway

Hmmm.....love the quote, it is very expressive and I am sure he experienced the pain to muster the words in the first place.   Some shocking words that opinionated many I am sure. Words full of shock and awe.

Mr. Hemingway wrote these words out personal knowledge and perhaps some venting but it was advice we can break down.

Forget your personal tragedy.

Good luck with that....lol  It is good to laugh at the first sentence is it not. : )

We have to move on from that personal tragedy for sure but forget it maybe just not dwell on it.  Move it to a corner of our heart and mind and let other things fill in the space.  Things that are helpful to ourselves and others, no drugs, no overeating, no getting full of intoxication.

Unless the intoxication is one of faith, hope and love.

Move on from your personal tragedy....yes.  Move on.

We are all bitched from the start and you especially have to be hurt like hell before you can write seriously.

A bit cynical here, 'bitched from the start' hmmm.... I don't know about that we all learn the same way from experience and our family mostly our mother and father I assume he is explaining.   So if indeed he had a broken heart or troubled spirit from the start yes I guess you can say it 'bitched him', hard words but maybe thats how he felt and he expressed it that way for sure.

My own childhood was very stressful, overprotected, mentally abused, used as a pawn, witness to my mothers physical abuse.  These things were very painful caused me to become very passive, a survivalist of life, and perhaps opens me up to being taken advantage of in matters of the heart.  Perhaps....

I don't really like to dwell on the past, it only shows what has happened.

I like to live with love, with kindness, with the passion of making a difference.

I feel a positive energy is all the difference in a world of hurt and fear that slows some down and others grinds them to a halt.

If you looked at Mr. Hemingway's bio he also served.  He served in the Red Cross in World War I , he served his local communities with work at the newspapers and he served us well by his works of art, his written word.  He made a difference for sure.

But when you get the damned hurt, use it-don't cheat with it.

He closes with when you get that or the not really sure that sounds better in that sentence you use that hurt, you don't cheat it.

To me that means use that frustration that pain, that hurt and don't cheat yourself or others by trying to numb it away, hate it away, don't ignore the hurt.  Use it.

How many times do you see a parent create something out of a death of child.  It happens almost every time.  A new law, a not for profit organization that teaches kids and adults not to drive drunk.

A walk for a child that died to get other people aware of the disease/illness that took a child's life much to early.

It moves people to action when we use that hurt.

It makes a difference those support groups that help in the healing.

Don't cheat yourself out of healing.  Use the hurt to heal.

Another step in making a difference in this world is to heal it.  But you have to use all the resources.  All the words no matter how much they sting, you use them to shock, to awe, to explain the hurt.

Smiles to you as always..... Smiles to you : )

10/11/11

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Recognize the enemy even when the enemy is ourselves

The first step on the way to victory is to recognize the enemy.

~Corrie Ten Boom

Sometime the enemy is ourselves.  Hard to understand why we would ever allow this to happen but think of it - the many times you have sabotaged your dreams, your goals, your relationships.  You ran because you feared change or you let the past habits rule your future destiny.

I know I have done this.  I feel I am getting better at strategizing my actions and especially my first steps each day.

Self destructive actions and these are just a few

Skipping prayer and spoken gratitude.

Limiting and discouraging self talk.

Ignoring the power of a smile and a empowering affirmation early in the morning mirror.

Skipping breakfast, even when we know it gets our day started right.

Drinking or doing drugs that can harm us from thinking clearly.

Smoking that scars our lungs.

Running from our faith and ignoring what we could accomplish.

Sharing that simple smile early and often in our day.

Ok.....so its more than a few but its important to understand and identify that maybe yes maybe we are guilty of one or more limiting behaviors.

Start with God - the first step in learning is

bowing down to God;

only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning.

~King Solomon

All of the greatest leaders in history have had faith in God.  We sometimes put religion ahead of spirituality and cloud the way for others instead of allowing our life, our faith and our love to be a beacon that shines under the clouds and lifts the veil of darkness in their lives.

Be that light, be that example of faith, love, hope and the greatest of these well, you know its love.

Live with out the judgement of others, what do we ever gain by judgement of another.  We don't win by dragging and pushing or over powering another in their beliefs and thoughts.

We only cause anger, mistrust, hate, and isolate that person from our true purpose in life which is to assist and help another and at the very least not harm them.

Having hit a wall, the next logical step is not to bang our heads against it.

~Stephen Harper

Seriously why would you want to keep doing the same thing over and over just to get the same result.  Stop, it won't help just by wishing it so.

When we bang our head over and over trying to break through that wall we will just achieve a greater head ache, and plenty of bruising.

Don't do it! Stop!

Try to go around the wall, under, over....get a ladder, get some leverage if you must and jump, or at the very least acknowledge the wall and your lack of tools and skill to overcome it and step away.

Step away from the pain of  constant failure and pain.

Look at a better path that you may be overlooking.

Stop...Pray....Give thanks......Listen.

Rethink your actions based on your written goals.

I knew someone who said 'I don't have or need goals.'  they also said that they live their life and allow it to happen.

They liked that type of life.

They got that type of life.

Nothing wrong with being spontaneous but your spontaneity should not go against your wisdom, your values and should never, must never be allowed to harm another.

Progress however, of the best kind, is comparatively slow.

Great results cannot be achieved at once; and

we must be satisfied to advance in life as we walk,

step by step.

~Samuel Smiles

Allow the ability to focus on your progress to be a daily task.

Don't rush anything.

Don't settle on anything.

Don't run when you know you should walk.

But always move forward.

Life allows us to learn as we go, but we must always focus on those lessons and apply what we have learned to achieve progress.

Progress is the goal.

Love is the way towards any goal.

When we love we empower.

When we hate we regress.

So that is quite simple these words that ask us to recognize the enemy and yes it is self evident that the enemy can be ourselves.

Smile, it does not have to be a bad thing this acknowledgment.  In fact it is a very good thing.

The first step and then another towards your success.

We need to smile more to......

So with that, I hope you know that this smile is sent to you : )

Always smiles sent your way !

10/09/11

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Twenty Thousand Little Ways

“The world is not a dream, but a reality, of

which we are the chief part, and in which we

must be up and doing something...Come out into

the world about you, be it either wide or

limited. Sympathize, not in thought only, but in action, with

all about you. Make yourself known and felt for

something that would be loved and missed, in

twenty thousand little ways, if

you were to die; then your life will be

a happy one, believe me.”

~ Charles Dickens

There are probably more than 20,000 little ways that you can make a difference in this world.  I like to stay on top of a few that I will repeat here.  These are little things and they take little time but will make all the difference not only in your life but in the life of others.

What are they? The word share is in front of all of these, but it must start with you.

A kind word - a sincere smile - laughter that is contagious

Joy -gratitude that is spoken - your acceptance - your love

Your imagination - your dreams -  your values

That is ten I think but they to me are so very important to share.

Yesterday I led with a quote that Steve Jobs shared with the world.

He wanted to put a ding on the universe with his products and his life. He did....

He shared a kind word and kept his family life private and personal.

He would share his love for his family thats clear but he protected them.  He made them feel safe and secure.

You can't say he did not share a smile or laughter.  His speeches and public appearances where full of laughter and smiles and in fact plenty of joy and love.

He had passion for life.

He accepted people, oh sure he wanted people to perform for him and his vision, his dreams, his value for a successful life are all within his 2005 speech to Stanford University's graduating class.

He shared his gratitude for the customer, for the Apple family that purchased, shared, loved, accepted and enjoyed the products.

He was full of imagination.  He was a dreamer that thought different.  He did not care about the status quo and when someone said it won't work, or it won't be popular, he did not care.  He pushed forward anyway.

He lived with his own values and beliefs and he pushed on and inspired others.

You can do the same, maybe you are not the CEO or founder of the next Apple.  But you are the CEO of you, the founder of your family, a mother, a father, a friend, a lover, a partner you are creating something and why not dream and reach for the stars.

Why not share a sincere smile everyday.

Why not?

Make that difference in your world.

Dream Big!

Share Love, laughter, joy and hope.

Yeah that 11 right, sharing hope.  Giving someone a shoulder to lean on.  Giving them the knowledge and belief that they are worthy, the road is clear ahead, this is the road map, here is a smile for you, oh yeah some laughter as well.  Things will get better here is why.

Words of hope for a soul that seeks it and often finds little.

Oh sure, we are truly responsible or our results, our thoughts and actions.  We need to be that for ourselves and our family.

But what is so wrong with our world when we if we took the time to share some hope and those ten other things listed above.  What difference would it make.

Could it save a teen from killing them self?

Could it save a young woman from selling her self?

Could it help a homeless person stand a little taller and have hope?

Could it inspire the next Steve Jobs to work in his families garage?

What if it could?  What if it does?

Is the effort worth the result that comes from it?

Just some thoughts.....

I write to get to you thinking, to inspire, to lift, to bring hope.....

I share my love and smile through these words, for you.

I cry out and have my own fears, my own solitude, my own sorrow but when that smile is shared with me, I smile.  When I hear laughter I laugh.

Do I dream....you bet.  Do I share gratitude spoken aloud, for sure.  Do I want to make a small ding in the universe?  Sure....

So I will.......

Picking up that hammer and tapping away, one smile, one post, one kind word, one shared laugh, one day at a time.

So should you....make your ding in the world.  Share, care and love.  Enjoy your day!

As always smiles sent your way !  : )

10/07/11

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Our purpose to share, to give, to love, to be happy

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.

~Dalai Lama

Interesting quote here, the opposite of happiness is discouraged, unhappy or even depressed.  Indeed we are not created for these feelings or words.

In my heart and in my mind we are designed to do more than just be happy.

We are placed here to do, to make things better, improve our life and the lives of others.

We have a mouth to speak, not just hang there.

We have two ears to listen, they just don't hold up our hat.

We have a brain that is in constant motion even in our sleep.

We have two hands to that mean to grasp and pick up things.

You get the idea.  Everything has a purpose and our purpose is to do not just be.

Life is what we make it,

always has been,

always will be.

~Grandma Moses

Life is what we make it, how we use our resources to make a difference.

Our resources are always present and waiting for us to use them.

The power of kindness to each other.

The power of a smile to be shared.

The power of concern to let another know we care.

The power of touch to show our love.

So much power in our resources, yet often we just let most if not all idle.

How sad, its like we have these tools to make a difference but we allow them to just remain in our tool box of life.

Become grateful for these tools but when you understand their true potential let them loose.

Share your love for life.

Shine your light with a smile.

Empower another with your encouragement.

Ignite the energy within you with laughter.

Reach out with your arms to hold and share a simple hug.

It just may be the most powerful gift they have received

A quick rhyme about the power of a simple hug:

There's something in a simple hug

That always warms the heart,

It welcomes us back home

And makes it easier to part....

~Johnny Ray Ryder, Jr., "A Simple Hug"

 

Love, a smile, encouragement, laughter, a hug.  Four little things that just may be everything to someone, and yes that someone just may be you.

As always smiles sent your way !  : )

10/04/11

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