Tuesday Taking Over Your Control

Every day starts and the clock is already running, time has ticked away and truth be told you allowed it.  Hey we all need sleep but you have the control on how you use your time.  You control it.

Not how many hours you spend, but the way you spend them!

Happiness is in your control.  You should never allow another spirit to dictate or determine your happiness, not now or ever.  You control the thoughts and you control the way that you look at the result.

Stay focused on your end result

Stay calm, breathe and know that you control your outcome.

Strength and control is everything when you put your spirit in motion.

How you control your responses and how you allow your momentum is truly up to you.

 Thoughts become things

Things become results made

Results made are what we can look back with pride or disappointment.

Your choice

Your control

Everyday remind yourself

Everyday treat yourself with kindness

Everyday take control of yourself because if you don't 

someone else will.

Smiles sent today and everyday 

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Walking Through Wednesday *New* ~July 27, 2011

Happy Wednesday everyone, July is coming to an end and August is at our doorstep.  How was your month, do you have memories made, it is great to be able to look back but always live life in the present.

Remember, the past is history and tomorrow is the mystery so lets just live for today. Stay hungry for sure, stay foolish sure ok but always live life as if it was all play.

Easy enough? It can be for sure.

So as part of Wednesdays new format for this post I want to share how we can and should handle any adversity that may come up in our life. How we can turn it around and learn to feel inspiration instead of desperation. On this day I have set it aside to inspire you and to help you overcome and focus on a more positive outcome.

This quote will start us out on the subject of living for today:

You must live in the present

launch yourself on every wave

find your eternity in each moment

~Henry David Thoreau

Awesome thought, not easy to live by of course. Some of us are very fearful of waves, and living with eternity for each moment.

We fear the moment that seems uncertain.  Not all of us but many do.  That wave that is about to crash the surf seems harmless of course, unless your the shore and some of your sand goes back to the sea.

We fear the unknown and unlike the small child we lack imagination of a positive outcome, change for who me?  It worries us but we say its ok for the other guy. Let him handle the change for me I like the warm water.

Some of the best things in life come from those moments of uncertainty and the best memories are from spontaneous actions.

Live life, dance and sing like no one is watching, and who really cares if they are.

Live in the moment.

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.

~Oprah Winfrey

Let go of preconceived outcomes and dream and have wonder like that of a young child.

Walk through the experience. Don't be tepid, don't stop short of your finest moment.

Walk on and look back only to see how far you have come.

For the person who looks back and sees no progress is certainly the person who has stood frozen in fear.

Fear - False - Evidence - Appearing - Real and it often is just a fable.

No truth just lots of hype.

Enjoy your dreams

Live your day

Live for right now and let your mind dance in the morning light.

Smiles to you and yours today and everyday!  : )

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Take Charge Tuesday *New* ~July 26, 2011

A very happy Tuesday to you all !  A wet day here in Pittsburgh and a much cooler day as well.  I have to say we needed the rain and it was good for the garden and the ground to get a soaking.  I hope you had such pleasant weather as well.

Todays post is about taking charge in the area of your life, your thoughts and your actions. The area to continue with this weeks theme of sort is keeping your ego in check and giving value to humility.

First a quote shared:

Humility does not mean thinking less of yourself than of other people, nor does it mean having a low opinion of your own gifts.  It means freedom from thinking about yourself at all.

~William Temple

Humility and kindness not just to others but to yourself.  Humility does not mean having a lack of pride in ones work or taking down our ego but it to me is having a watchful eye for others.

To have the open eyes, ears and heart to look out for family, friends and even total strangers and give a compliment , a kind gesture and even a smile can have profound effects on both.

Being humble.

Being kind.

Being in touch with the importance of life instead of ones own accomplishment.

Having a giving heart and looking close at another persons point of view.

That is putting a much stronger effort into the world instead of self consuming thoughts of ones self.

Another quote:

It is well to remember that the entire population of the universe,

with one trifling exception, is composed of others.

~Andrew J. Holmes, Wisdom in Small Doses

To know that I am that trifling exception and the greater source of outcome is from community and working together towards and for the greater good.

Would we indeed have our government in the shape it is today if they even considered many years ago that statement.

Our government is full of egos.

Full of people that make decisions on not what is right but what is fashionable and profitable for its own purpose.

We need as a society to become more aware of a government for the people not of the people.

Enough of that political stuff, they will do as they will until we sent a much stronger message.

Our message to our agenda is to stay humble even with success and all the gratitude that we have.

Stay kind in a world that is sometimes not kind first or last.

Stay hungry for the right of love and joy to prosper in our life and the lives of those who are important in our life.

What a world it could be if we all practiced humility and kindness to each other.

That is todays thoughts, wish and hope for one and all : )

Smiles to you this day and every day .

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True enough!

Monday Motivational Moment *New* 07/25/11

Happy Monday to you all!  Are you ready for it?  The last week of July 2011.  Yeah, another day closer to back to school, and all the kids go...booooo. LOL No just kidding summer has been a warm one has it not?  Wow like it is almost to hot to even go outside at times.  But you put your best face forward and onward you go.

I hope you had the chance to enjoy the weekend and hopefully share a kind word and a smile.

Thanks for all the kind words and the feedback from yesterdays post.  Many of you liked the story I shared about the two wolves inside all of us.  If you did not have a chance please go back to Sundays post. You will enjoy it.

Yesterday I spoke about taking care of those wolves inside all of us and being careful which wolf to feed.

Today I want to continue with that train of thought and ask all of us to be careful of our ego and how and what we say to another spirit.

A quote to start us out on this thought:

Apologizing does not always mean

that you are wrong and the

other person is right.

It just means that you value

your relationship more than your ego.

~ Unknown quotes

Some of us know that at one time or another someone stepped on our toes, they said something meaning well but in the end it hurt us beyond belief.  We may have lashed out or cowered but the effect is seldom good or better than the cause of the hurt.

How are we to react?

The story from yesterday is that both reactive forces are inside of us and have the power and the energy to come out and make a show of power.  But the choice should always be thought out.

Can I save hurting another just because I was hurt.

Can I explain my point of view to the other person.

The most important question, does it even really matter.

Some things in life do matter, our honor, our values, our convictions in life.  So at times you may need to take a few moments and decide your response.

However the outcome you may need to reach out in a way that does no real harm but gets your point across.

If we truly live with gratitude in our spirit for those things that we come in contact with, then we should and must appreciate the things that we wish we would not come in contact with.

The good and bad are merely a perception to the person who perceives the good and bad event.

One persons day at the beach is another persons sand covered aggravation.

Some of us love the rain and the storms that roll through and yet another just had a picnic or ball game rained out.

It is not if we will have a wave come upon us it is only when it will happen. Just as some of us will ride the wave and enjoy it and others will have the wave occupy time in a not so joyous way.

But in the end its how we react to each wave.

What we learn, there is no true failure. Just a lesson in life.

So the next time your space is intruded by another persons comment take time to step back and try to understand their motive.

It is not always wise to react. Sometimes just consider the source.

Smiles to you this day and everyday! : )

Enjoy your day and have a great week.

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Take Charge Tuesday *New* ~July 19, 2011

A very happy Tuesday to you all ! Stay cool as much of the country is under a heat advisory.  Stay indoors if possible, drink lots of water and think cool thoughts if you must.  Stay cool tempered and share that smile.  This too shall pass, it always does.

Today my son Troy has surgery on his wisdom teeth, his wisdom teeth are impacting against his back teeth, just the bottom two thank goodness.  But if you can send up a prayer he will be going under anesthesia and a local Novocain and this should all happen around 9:30 am.  He should be back to normal in a couple days. So in advance thank you for your positive thoughts and prayers. :)

Todays post is about taking charge in the area of your life, your thoughts and your actions. These thoughts and actions are all yours and no matter what another person suggests or intends for you should not matter, what other people think or want for you is not their choice its yours.

First a quote:

"It is a painful thing to look at your

own trouble and know that

you yourself and no one else has made it.

~ Sophocles

True enough!

This world always seems to play the blame game.

We blame the President for the countries debt and poor decisions. Yes they are his poor choices and all but did he really start the ball rolling or was it many administrations prior and other parts of the government as well.

We blame juries for the lack of a conviction for allowing Casey Anthony to go free.  But then we never ask or blame the families and friends for no questioning where is your daughter for over a month. It takes many to allow a crime this heinous to become a reality.  Many people looking the other way and not making a conscious choice to get involved.  Prosecution had their role in the juries decision as well.

We love to blame but the old saying that when you point a finger at another your pointing four more back at yourself holds true.

Taking control of your thoughts and actions and taking responsibility that they are all yours, is the first step in having a bountiful harvest from your 'garden of thoughts' that I spoke about Sunday and Monday.

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

~Unknown

So don't blame another for choices that were ultimately yours.  Not everything that happen should affect us of course.  There is little we can do about the 'debt ceiling' or 'Casey Anthony' they are both outside our circle of influence.  But we can vote and contact our Senator or Congressman.  We can make sure our children and family now that we love them and care about their safety and well being.

These things we can choose to control.

“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to

own ourselves, there is no longer any

need to ask permission of someone.”

~George O’Neil

The only permission we should seek is from our own conscious.

“Make the best use of what is in your power, and

take the rest as it happens.”

~Epictetus

Indeed..... make the best use of your energy, thoughts and power.

We can continue tomorrow but for now I wish you the very best and smiles sent your way.

Have a great day : )

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Monday Motivational Moment *New* 07/18/11

Happy Monday to you all!  Are you ready for it?  I mean really ready for today.  I love the day, I love most days but trust me life is not a rose garden for me with out any thorns.  I don't want you to get the wrong idea of life in my world.

It is just the idea and the attitude that I try to carry within my heart and soul that I can make a difference and that my self talk and gratitude attitude sets the pace for the day.

I hope you enjoyed your weekend and that you made a difference whether for your family or a complete stranger.

Yesterday I spoke about taking care of the garden of thoughts that we all have the power to tend.

To keep with that theme a quote:

 

A man sooner or later discovers that he is

the master-gardener of his soul,

the director of his life.

~James Allen

It is far better to know this sooner in life of course.  It is also a must that you try to teach your children that quote as well.

Imagine if you knew that as a young child, as a young adult and prevented I am sure mishaps along lifes journey.

No probably at that young age you thought you knew most of the lessons of life, or so you thought.

You looked at your mom and dad and said, 'I will do it better'.

And life went on with the twists and turns and the speed bumps.

Sure everything happens for a reason, with out a doubt.

Failure is perhaps the best teacher in life.

But too often we think as we stumble and fall that this is so tragic and that how is this fixable.

In fact everything in life is like a garden, if you pay attention and take care of your crop you will sow a nice harvest.  In life the nice harvest would equate to gratitude, happiness within, the ability to enjoy laughter and even enjoy a tear or two.

Does life always promise a harvest of joy, hardly, storms do come but I have said this before it is how we handle the storm, how we react to the storm that matters most.

Take life slow and steady in your decisions and actions. Allow yourself the time to think out the possible outcomes.

But as far as laughter, or dreams, or the passion to do your very best.  Take the plow and the hoe and take to the fun of planting your dreams in strong and steady soil.

The soil that will help the roots of life's decisions take a strong grip.

Dream

Laugh

Smile

and yes even cry each day, just a little and you will find your master garden blooming plenty to go around.

May your pantry in your soul be filled with love and smiles.  Plenty to share and even enough to give away.

Have a great week everyone and have fun playing in your garden.

Smiles to you this day and everyday! : )

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Staying in Focus on Sunday *New* 07/17/11

Happy Sunday everyone!  A day to reflect, give thanks and share with those who you love. May this day be all that and more!

Yesterday I shared with you a few tips on putting that sizzle back into your life.  Taking control of your gratitude attitude would be added to that list.

Without gratitude playing a major role in your life you have a constant flow of thoughts that say, is this all there is ?  The desire for more will overwhelm and your thought process towards the day will feel like a ferris wheel moving a bit then stopping. Not a great feeling even when the wheel moves at a faster speed your still just going in circles.

Moving ahead and forward with gratitude is key here.

Today is a great day, everyday is a great day.  It is all you have to have is the desire and attitude to allow your spirit and soul to enjoy each step you take.

The best part of Sunday is what you make it.  For me its that early morning sunshine, that first cup of coffee.  Listening to nature right outside of my window as I type away.

I start everyday with a first step of gratitude and passion for the day that awaits me.  I start each morning with prayers of thanks to God above for letting me

have another day in the beauty of nature and life.

My focus today will be on adding gratitude into your life. Making it part of your daily habit and keeping it in your thought process at all times.

A quote about Gratitude:

Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.

~Oprah Winfrey

Being thankful and tending to your garden of thoughts.  A garden that should be free of anger, free of disappointment and free of envy or jealousy.

The garden of thoughts that you tend to should be watered each day with words of gratitude.  Taking notice to how those words effect the other and help your thoughts grow straight and tall with plenty of nutrients to feed upon during your day
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The tending to your garden of thoughts should be early in the day, when the morning new still protects and helps with the feeding of your spirit and soul.

Early morning prayers and meditation and taking care of your body with proper nourishment will give you the best start to any day.  It does not have to be for long, only as long as it would take to have any conversation with a friend or loved one.

This conversation or words of gratitude is with God and the energy that surrounds you.  A conversation that says all is good and I am so grateful and blessed to have my life, my nature that sits outside and all around.

The tending to your garden of thoughts should be careful and with careful attention to any negative word or action that hides in your soul and spirit.

Replace it with love and kindness to that spirit of yours.  Take time to reflect and appreciate what you bring to your plot in your garden.

Admire your beauty.

Admire your accomplishments.

Give thanks for life that has been given this day.

Give praise to those who give you unconditional love.  Family and friends who always are close by when you need them the most.

Tend to your garden and remove all that is bad.

Tend to your garden of thoughts and give the attention it has to have.

For a garden of plants left unattended will become full of weeds, and harmful agents that will destroy its beauty.

So it is with the garden of thoughts, pay close attention and nurture your spirit and soul and beliefs with love.

A quote:

If you can, help others; if you cannot do that,

at least do not harm them.

~Dalai Lama

I modify it for you today and it is to teach and inspire and not to take away the beauty of the words above.

If you tend and monitor your thoughts each day and go forth with words that empower and strengthen your way.

You will find that your spirit and soul as it interacts will help and light the path to a more productive life.

A life that helps others and gives them hope and

if it does not help another in a kind and gentle way it will at the very least not harm you along your journey.

But perhaps shine a light for another and

gently light the path they may be upon.

Light your path with words that give hope and energy.

Light your path with gratitude

Light your path and know that smiles are sent your way from myself of course but others who take pride that your their friend today.

Enjoy your day !

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