Happy Tuesday everyone and yes we are only 2 days away from a New Year! No real plans here just a quiet night, good food, a little bubbly and probably Dick Clark on the TV. Is he really still doing that. Seems like forever ago when I first watched him so many years ago with my Mom and Dad.
We talked about some things we could do next year that will help us focus on gratitude, and making a difference first in our own life and then in the life of others around us.
I spoke of the word resolve as in making that decision to have no other decision and to resolve to focus on what can make me better, stronger, happier in the new year and future year.
This leads me into the statement:
If you ask a better question you will get a better answer.
What I mean here is so many times we stumble and don't really know how to fix the situation we are currently in. We either do nothing and stay troubled, or we do too much to fix it and cause wide and expansive ripples that cause other problems.
Why? We react to our situation. Doing nothing is a reaction true? You bet. Doing nothing is a choice we sometimes make for various reasons. We don't want to make trouble for someone or we are too lazy to change. We are afraid of failure or we fear change. The very change we want we fear because 'what if it don't go right'?
So how do we fix these fears? How do we get from point A (where we are now) to point B ( where we want to be)?
My thoughts on this are these. As a child we had so much wonder and imagination we just did. Of course we made mistakes, fell, and stumbled along the way and we had a support system to help us when we failed. They were are parents. Since we have grown as adults and have heard the word no I can't do that thousand's of times we have altered our belief system in imagination and wonder. Sad huh?
Many of us continue that tradition today with our own kids. Worried about things that could happen to our kids when they have not even happened yet. We inherently protect because this or that could happen and we worry about worst case scenario for our kids.
This brings me to a thought and a practice to work on today and this year.
Ask a better question you will get a better answer.
If we take the time to formulate our thoughts and trials and tribulations into better questions instead of dreary one way statements we will get better answers.
For example:
So many bills so little money is a problem we often all have. We worry about this or that and consume our thoughts over when and how the next bill will be paid. Often we spin our wheels until we have little traction to move forward. So the question on the table often is for example "Why is it always so hard to just get by?" can easily be changed to a statement of I have always been resourceful in the past to get to this point, what can I do right now that will help me earn more so that I can continue?
Do you see the difference. One question is focus on the lack we feel and the pain we are in.
The second question focuses on what we have accomplished (grateful) thus far and the present moment not the future uncertainty (worry) of the situation.
Practice it, think of your questions that you ask yourself each day.
Resolve that this year will be different and better than the past years.
Pray with thanks for the resources we do have, like family, a roof over our heads, a computer with a connection to the web that gives us with a click resources to help.
Take five or six minutes each day to write in a gratitude journal your 3 things that make today such a blessing and express what your currently grateful for.
Ask better question of the current situation that you seek a better answer and solution.
Tomorrow we will talk about taking some time to reflect and how reflection can help us understand the waves in our life that are flowing us down the river of life and how we can prepare for the crashing waves that are coming for all of us. Don't worry crashing waves can be fun, ever go to a water park?
Till next time.... Smile share it with yourself and then others it just may be someones difference maker today.
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